Magnanimous 5

Magnanimity is the virtue of doing great things well. It involves a refusal to be petty, a willingness to face danger, and actions for noble purposes. 

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MAGNANIMOUS 5

Magnanimous 5’s objective is to have you connected with a group of men in your area who are dedicated to helping each other better themselves and their habits. The group is meant to be an encouragement for Christian men on the way. 

If it sounds great but you’re thinking … “one more thing” and “I’m so busy already.”

FOR BUSY DADS

We get it. 

Magnanimous 5 requires only a 30-minute weekly ‘virtual’ meet-up via Zoom conference call, with biannual meetings in person.

This group is meant to be a context in which each member can set small goals for daily life, receive some accountability and support, and share life in an on-going way. Further, reaching out by text or phone during the week is a natural follow-through.

Each Magnanimous 5 member will commit to:

Attending

“Attending” the 30-40 minute meeting on a weekly basis

Praying

Praying for one assigned member throughout the week

Meeting

Meeting in person at least biannually

Commiting

Committing for the period of 1 year (renewable)

WHO CAN JOIN?

Men over 18 who are looking for support and encouragement from other men who are on the way with Christ.

WHY JOIN?

Take it from people smarter and holier than you:

“For friendship is a partnership, and as a man is to himself, so is he to his friend; now in his own case the consciousness of his being is desirable, and so, therefore, is the consciousness of his friend’s being, and the activity of this consciousness is produced when they live together, so that it is natural that they aim at this. … the friendship of good men is good, being augmented by their companionship; and they are thought to become better too by their activities and by improving each other; for from each other they take the mold of the characteristics they approve-whence the saying ‘noble deeds from noble men’.” ~ Aristotle ~

John 15:12-15 

12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

Proverbs 27:17 

17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

 

Basically … 

Aristotle teaches that the virtue of friendship is the crowning virtue of the good life. To be good, you need good friends. And the best friends are those that have the interest of the best part of you (your soul) at heart. Magnanimous 5 is meant to connect Christian men who are seeking to grow as men, fathers, husbands, professionals, and – friends – to share weekly with men who have their best interest at heart and to be a support and challenge for each other.

FORMAT

Schedule of the 30-minute meet-up:

Opening Prayer – 1 minute

3 Members give a brief (2 min) overview of the 7 Focus Areas.  Then the members sharing that week spend 5 minutes discussing 1 area more in-depth. The group can then provide feedback if appropriate/asked for. Feedback is limited to one minute per member. (20-25 minutes)

Closing prayer – 1 minute

FOCUS AREAS

The Balanced Scorecard approach is a business tool that organizations use to assess their overall health. Basically, a lot of things affect the “Bottom Line” of a business and it is helpful to look at things “wholistically” in order to make a sound strategy to address problem areas and make strategies for growth. And the “scoring” aspect (assigning a score to the areas) stems from the slogan “you can’t monitor what you can’t measure”. 

By using a similar tool for our personal life, the hope is that we get a better sense of where we are and are able to plan for, and eventually get to where we want to be. Also, it is important to become aware of how certain areas are affecting other areas. Each week, 3 members will rate themselves on the following Focus Areas based on a score rating out of 5.

FOCUS AREAS
  • A. Health: Sleep, Drinking Water, Exercise
  • B. Marriage: Communication, Service, Gifts, Time, Touch
  • C. Finances: Spending, Saving, Giving
  • D. Fatherhood: Spending time, Discipline with love, Teaching
  • E. Friends: Good of the other, Prayer, Time, Fun
  • F. Prayer: personal, couple, Scripture, Sacraments
  • G. Work: job satisfaction, productivity, relationships, clarity & mission

SCORE RATING

Rockin’ it100%
Pretty damn good80%
Ehhh...60%
Been better40%
HELP!20%
They will then discuss 1 area/issue more in-depth. Questions that may be addressed during the in-depth discussion:

How does this make me feel?

Why do I think I’m doing this?

What else is contributing?

What 1 thing should I start doing?

What 1 thing should I stop doing?

MAGNANIMOUS 5 GUIDELINES

1) Confidentiality The "seal of the confessional" type confidentiality is expected among all group members. Basically: A) everything that is said at a meeting is not repeated to anyone else (wives included). B) no one (save the person who shares) brings up anything that was discussed at the meeting, outside the meeting. I.e. material gained from meetings is basically forgotten and cannot be eluded to. During the meeting or subsequent meetings, we can make an offer to discuss it more with the person who brought it up and an accountability partner could be a good option for that. But unsolicited phone calls, emails, or especially conversations at church where other people may happen by, are off-limits. 2) Responses to sharing Growth starts with self-knowledge and self-acceptance. What is often needed for growth is prayers and support, not necessarily advice. Our go-to as men is to be "the fixer" and try and solve problems. Some of us have more or less experience and ability to judge suitable responses and advice. A helpful approach is for the individual sharing to clarify whether they want advice, prayers or just to be listened to. The ability to share freely is reinforced if people don't feel like they are going to be then given a list of to-dos or ready-made solutions. Sometimes the person sharing is very aware of what the right thing to do is and they just don't have the time, energy, will, or desire to do it, for whatever reason. They’re just not there. People pointing out the right thing to do at these times is not helpful. It is more likely the case that we need to come to our own conclusions regarding what our best next step is. Group members can ask clarifying questions or ask whether the person who shared wants advice or to hear their own personal, related anecdote.